“You may have come into this world 100% unplanned, but that doesn’t make you any less than 100% worthy.”
“To forgive is to grieve - for what happened, for what didn’t happen - and to give up the need for a different past”
Is adoption wounding preventing you from having healthier relationships?
Do you hide your thoughts and feelings from your friends and family for fear of criticism and shame?
Do you find yourself people-pleasing to gain or maintain acceptance?
Do you wake up with a chronic feeling that you should be better/do better?
I know exactly how you feel.
I have been there, too.
“Something in you says, if I’m authentic, I won’t be loved anymore and if I’m not loved, I won’t survive”
“Let people be wrong about you.”
Many of us have experienced a disconnection from family members because of circumstances not in our control: death, divorce, infidelity, adoption…
Along the way, we’ve been shown that our thoughts and feelings don’t matter. If we don’t make any waves, everything will be fine. Keep the peace at all costs.
Human beings’ brains are wired to avoid negative emotions: seek pleasure and avoid pain. So we may overeat, overdrink, do drugs, overspend, overwork, or numb out on our phones or TVs…. all to avoid having to feel our negative emotions.
We blame everything else for how we feel and judge others for not doing what we need them to do to make us feel better.
We give all our power away to things outside of us.
We believe it.
My dear friends, I have good news. It is possible to take a good look at our minds and unpack what is there. We can’t change it unless we are willing to look at it.
We don’t resist or hate what’s there. We look at it and respect it for keeping us alive for this long. It has done its job, but if we want to move forward in our lives and evolve past our current state, we have to be willing to let go of what is no longer serving us.
My mission is to help adoptees and non-adoptees feel, believe, and act as worthy as they already are.
It is your natural birthright to enjoy this life, have your own back, have confidence, discover your unique brilliance, and live more freely.
I am offering free coaching through 2024.
I want to hear about where you are on your journey and what you are seeking more of.
